Just add water...
I ran across a book the other day called "Five Easy Steps to Instant Intimacy."
OK, what's wrong with that title? Go ahead, think about it...I'll wait.
Give up? There is no such thing as Instant Intimacy!! It's an oxymoron; like Jumbo Shrimp.
Intimacy, by its very definition, takes time. Webster's defines intimacy as "n. close or confidential friendship; familiarity." Intimate (from which intimacy is derived) is defined as "adj. most private or personal; very close or familiar; deep and thorough. n. an intimate friend; v. to make known."
There is no instant in those definitions. Becoming intimate, or very close, or personal, requires time. Time to get to really know the other person, deeply and thoroughly.
As such, there is no instant intimacy in a blending family. Each member must take the time to get to know every other family member, deeply and thoroughly. Unfortunately, most people entering into a blending family situation get married thinking, "We'll all love each other - instantly!" I hate to break it to you, but that only happens on TV.
You cannot just add water and stir, to create a blended family. It takes conscious effort, time, persistance, time, love, time, forgiveness, time and prayer. Oh - and did I mention, time?
So don't fall for the myth of instant intimacy. Keep working at it though - eventually your family will become what God intended.
OK, what's wrong with that title? Go ahead, think about it...I'll wait.
Give up? There is no such thing as Instant Intimacy!! It's an oxymoron; like Jumbo Shrimp.
Intimacy, by its very definition, takes time. Webster's defines intimacy as "n. close or confidential friendship; familiarity." Intimate (from which intimacy is derived) is defined as "adj. most private or personal; very close or familiar; deep and thorough. n. an intimate friend; v. to make known."
There is no instant in those definitions. Becoming intimate, or very close, or personal, requires time. Time to get to really know the other person, deeply and thoroughly.
As such, there is no instant intimacy in a blending family. Each member must take the time to get to know every other family member, deeply and thoroughly. Unfortunately, most people entering into a blending family situation get married thinking, "We'll all love each other - instantly!" I hate to break it to you, but that only happens on TV.
You cannot just add water and stir, to create a blended family. It takes conscious effort, time, persistance, time, love, time, forgiveness, time and prayer. Oh - and did I mention, time?
So don't fall for the myth of instant intimacy. Keep working at it though - eventually your family will become what God intended.
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